My friend Katherine's little boy had had somewhat similar problems and helped me to do a little research into tongue ties. After much research and consideration we decided to take Ben to a doctor on Long Island who is a specialist in tongue tie's and correcting them to see if this is what was causing Ben's problems.
And indeed it was! His tongue was between a level 3 and 4 tie and his upper lip was also tied. She corrected both and we are praying that will be the answer and Ben will be able to start eating a more varied diet without the problems he had before. And maybe for mommy's sake we can switch to a faster nipple and it won't take him 45 minutes to finish a bottle!
He is recovering well for his snips. The doctor said to keep his hands out of his mouth for three days. When Claudio and I looked at her as if she was out of her mind she recommended putting socks on his hands. Well as you all know we never pass up an opportunity to put Ben's clothing on the wrong part of his body so we were all for it! ;) In actuality he has not been putting his hands in his mouth for whatever reason so we haven't had to worry about it, but we still tried this out for fun last night LOL....yeah we are evil parents ;)
Interestingly it didn't hinder his superior piano playing skills one bit!